• Whine Tasting

    September 26, 2016

    Years ago I worked with an elderly male accountant who counted on his head to solve the world’s problems. Our work began when his wife…

    The Mystery of Mating

    September 26, 2016

    I have had the privilege of working with many couples in my practice over the years and I’ve been struck with how it is that…

    Stringing Pearls

    September 26, 2016

    Sometimes in the course of my work as a therapist I am asked whether it is necessary to go back in time and consider one’s…

    Poles Apart

    September 26, 2016

    It is a legitimate phenomenon. It is a common dynamic. When we see it in extreme ways, we name it. We label it. We number…

    One Oar in the Water

    September 26, 2016

    This past decade of high financial uncertainty and distress can affect relationships in ways that seem worthy of mention. When life as we know it…

    Link Luster

    September 26, 2016

    A Scottish psychoanalyst, W.R.D. Fairbairn, accurately named and described the notion that we are primarily creatures that seek attachment. From the moment we are born,…

    In Pursuit of Passion

    September 26, 2016

    I had someone ask me recently if her husband’s ‘sexual addiction’ was a rare disorder. I responded that I’m not sure about the notion of…

    Holding Good and Bad in One Palm

    September 26, 2016

    One of the benefits of my doctorate program and studying multiple theorists in depth about mental health issues is that some of the most common…

    Dark Night of the Soul

    September 26, 2016

    A dark night of the soul can last for a single evening. It can last for a couple of days. Sometimes it lasts a couple…

    Consultant Parenting

    September 26, 2016

    What are we looking for as we raise our children? What are we hoping to facilitate and encourage as we function as therapists and work…

    Worthwhile Words

    September 25, 2016

    Words – words thrown into the space between two people. As human beings, we are capable of creating alphabets, language, and sounds that are symbols…

    The Point of Pain

    September 8, 2016

    I love a sermon that gets me thinking. I heard one of those this week. A young Associate Pastor was speaking and the wisdom behind…

    God Ingrained

    September 4, 2016

    It is a privilege to work with clients of any spiritual persuasion in my psychotherapy practice. It appears a sense of spirituality or a lack…

    Telling a Good Story

    September 4, 2016

    Did you know as a parent that the basic formation of your child’s sense of self stems from what they see reflected in your eyes?…

    Every Day is Mother’s Day

    September 4, 2016

    Aside from being a little too busy at times, I was always grateful that I was either in school studying psychology or functioning as a…

    Are You My Mother?

    September 4, 2016

    I am often reminded of the Dr. Seuss children’s book written by P.D. Eastman, entitled, “Are You My Mother?” as I work with couples in…

    Teen Hair Color

    September 3, 2016

    Concerned that your child is sporting multi-colored hair? It could be just a creative outlet, which will eventually grow out and have little or no…

    Prodigal Protégé

    September 1, 2016

    A father, anguished by his young adult child’s self-destructive behavior cried out, “Where did I go wrong?” His urgent, heartfelt question resonated deep inside me,…

    Shame

    September 1, 2016

    Our dog, Chloe, was tired and lagging behind us at the full length of her retractable leash. We were approaching our house on the final…

    Sadomasochistic Dynamics

    September 1, 2016

    Sometimes sadomasochistic tendencies add some spice to a relationship. We could say flirtation holds a certain ‘cat and mouse’ flavor that provokes an element of…